Although everyone has their own way of understanding love, there are some traits which everyone ought to have for a relationship to work.
Research on relationships has shown the following factors largely help in sustaining love.
Mutual Respect
Respect is earned if both partners respect each other's differences. According to Stan Tatkin, a couple therapist, is that when two lovers respect each other's personalities and differences, they head to one direction which is achieving success and working together this achieving in life.
Many people contradict respect and tolerance. For a partner to respect each other, they should be comfortable about what they are agreeing to respect but for tolerance, it's ignoring the bad deeds of you partner.
Relying on your partner
Couples should understand it is not an offence to depend on your partner. But the question is, is the people you're relying on willing to be? Is he/she comfortable with it? According to Esther Perel, a modern relationship expert, the reason as to why most relationships are not working is because many people depend on emotional and physical resources such as reassurance, compassion and financial support.
If your partner is most of the time busy with work, the compassion dependence won't be always offered. Again if he/she is jobless, expect no cash upkeep you. Therefore, relying on your partner depends on whether they are capable of and willing to.
Having a Secure Attachment
Before getting into a relationship, consider how emotionally, physically and mentally attached you're into the other person. This helps you not to fall in love for material things.
Kyle Benson, a renowned relationship expert and counselor reports that partners who understands this connection before moving in together, secure cultivative romantic love and their personal relationship needs. If both of you are having a genuine love connection, you end up succeeding in your relationship unlike of one of you have materialistic intentions for falling in love.
Being There for Each Other
The phrase, "I will always be there for you," has a deep meaning, not just the words. It means in good and bad situations, you'll stay. Unlikely, according to research, no every adheres to this words.
According to Research by relationship expert, Julie Gottman on marriage connection to over 3,000 couples says that stable partners always show up for each other in a rate of 86% of the time while for couples who end up divorcing be there for each other in a rate of 33%.
Maintain positive attitude
Attitude plays a key role in a lasting relationship. These affects most of couples especially after having a toxic relationship before. The phobia can drive your negative attitude from the previous to the new house. Others hold on a general idea of "men or women are the same.” As a results you end up investing in negative energy. Optimism will thrive from your positive attitude. Nothing excites like being optimistic on couple goals.
Taking into consideration the above principles and apply them, can help build a stable and resilient connection. Relationship is a two way path, you love someone, and you get love back in return. Elizabeth Gilbert, an American author and journalist once said, "To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow. This is human offering that can border on miraculous."
Disclaimer:
This article has been written for informational purposes and cites relationship experts.
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